QUIET BORDERLINE! What is it? Mental Health, BPD & Kati Morton Borderline Personality Disorder?

Now BEFORE you watch this, please check out my first video about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPopjuKuweg&list=PL_loxoCVsWqwRYQO-u0iW_bjL_DpWBbd8 That will help you better understand what BPD is so that you can then add on the idea of "quiet borderline" and what that may look like and feel like. So the traditional way that we see and experience BPD is a very outward expressing or anger out way. We can be very volatile in our relationships and even struggle with suicidality. We worry a lot about others leaving us and almost cannot trust them to stay! So we can get very upset and hurt. We express this outwardly and it can be very hard on us and those who we are in relationship with. However, there are many of us who may relate to the symptoms of BPD, but do not lash out or express any emotion outwardly. We may instead, express it inward, and take it out on ourselves solely. Obviously, everyone expresses their diagnosis differently, so you may identify with all or none of this. Just keep in mind that this is why we need to see a professional and get a proper diagnosis before we jump to any conclusions. Those of us with a "quiet borderline" may have really needed a better or more nurturing parent. This can lead us to feeling like we don't really exist or that what we need and want is not acceptable. Another portion of BPD that could be seen as a "quiet borderline" trait are the areas of impulsivity. We may binge eat or use drugs or alcohol to cope, both of which are things that do to harm ourselves and could be done in private without sharing these struggles with anyone. So you can see how it can differ person to person, and some of us may not have the traditional BPD experience. Please keep in mind that no matter what diagnosis we are given, we still need to ask questions and express your own feelings and symptoms so that our treatment team can better understand what we are going through, and make sure we are getting the proper support! YOU CAN RECOVER!! REMEMBER THAT! MY FREE WORKBOOKS: Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC My SCHEDULE: MONDAY - New video release http://goo.gl/OUEsgM TUESDAY - Tumblr Tuesday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/79fMfa WEDNESDAY - Website & YouTube Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/CIp9b9 THURSDAY - Twitter Thursday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kL7ZjX FRIDAY - Facebook Friday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kjYLeR My PO Box: 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 OTHER: My Website: https://www.katimorton.com Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/katimorton Tumblr: https://www.katimorton.tumblr.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/GEht/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- recovery cutting psychology therapist

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Love Light: I've been watching a lot of videos about mental disorders and I think I might have every single one because I have some of the symptoms sometimes of everything at certain points in my life

Perdido Atlantic: My mother is quiet BPD. Her favorite phrase: “My children treat me very shabbily”. Translation: we won’t be her abused audience.

Dan Schnorr: thanx for the bpd and bpd related videos. you do a really good job with your videos. thank you esp for the last couple minutes of this video.

Sponge Bag: that last part about hope was so helpful. i only recently started going to a dbt group and it's been so helpful, but sometimes i get overwhelmed and worry too much about things ive read or my own thoughts that are telling me I will never be able to manage this and feel "normal"

Zeth Andrews: I have a problem with the way the DSM treats self mutilation and it's the presumption that it's done for attention, or to stop, or to express an emotion. My problem with this presumption is that some people have used self mutilation in a completely opposite way.

Instead of attempting to stop emotions, it can be used solely to ground a person who doesn't feel real or feels like they're dreaming. Basically, it can be used when a person is dissociation to help ground them back to some kind of reality. This isn't the same thing as harming oneself for attention, to stop intense emotions, or to express an emotion like anger. It's instead the lack of feeling and the disconnection with oneself and their emotions that drive it.

My question is why doesn't the DSM 5 seem to address that particular situation? I see it as a valid argument for not automatically assuming that self mutilation = a BPD symptom.

Luca Peyrefitte: This speaks to me and makes me feel worse but thank you

Brandy Adams: Is it bad that i feel all 4 types of bpd...

Alexander Rhodes: Funny story: my friends told me to take the BPD quiz online. So I did and in the end it said that I have "increased BPD symptoms".....lol I'm frickin weird

Alysa Carr: of all the things about mental health that interest me, BPD is scarily similar to some things that I've felt. I plan on going to get help this is kind of just something I've somehow managed to overlook about myself almost pretending that I don't actually feel those things or that everybody feels them. This really just like showed me something like that this isn't how other people see the world or feel and I'm just now realizing it...

Verena Valentine: I cried when I listened to this. I relate so much to your explanation of 'Quiet Borderline'. I love this video.

Cernunnos: I swear I'm a quiet borderline male but my therapist is not convinced, she has not seen me "hot and cold".....but I do get hot and cold to people, and I sometimes I can't control it. Maybe I need to be hot/cold to her, but i am afraid of losing her. Maybe i'm not BPD? idk. She floated the idea of bipolar II, but idk about that either. Last time I might have convinced her I'm narcissistic.

Piper0516: I love you. I say the same thing to my clients....you can get better...the diagnosis sounds worse than it is....I believe we can overcome everything....research proves that if we treat people as if they can not overcome And they are their diagnosis....the begin to believe they are and will not overcome. I’ve met clients whom utilize diagnosis as an excuse. It’s not an excuse. I’ve met clients with extreme autism and even really bad schizophrenia whom can overcome....kids when stunted intellectual disability whom couldn’t tie their shoes or function....learning to do so. If you treat people as if they are human and more than capable...with encouragement....they overcome. Much love, girl!

Somebody Over There: I know this video was posted years ago, and no one is probably going to see this, but if you do, I have a question.
My therapist told me that she doesn't think I have a serious mental illness. Now, I am still a teenager and I understand that it's really hard to diagnose someone as young as I am, but I've had a history of extreme isolation and self harm. I think, from what I can gather, that I have Quiet BPD, or something like it. I don't lash out at all, I bottle everything up inside of me. I can't express my feelings well to others, especially my parents. I have extreme trust issues, but my worst fear is no one listening to me or my symptoms being ignored. I haven't told anyone about me getting very angry or sad a lot, and exaggerating my thinking, like "they all hate me". I've done research, and Quiet BPD sounds exactly like me, but no one believes that I have anything worse than anxiety.
How can I convince my therapist I have Quiet BPD, or at least communicate to my therapist my feelings and serious thoughts and symptoms that my parents ignore?
I feel like I'm screaming inside of myself when no one can hear me, and I don't want to start self harming again, but I'm afraid I might if this goes on. I'm so so scared that no one will listen, but I'm too afraid to speak up because I don't trust anyone at all.
I think my parents might be part of the problem, even though I feel so guilty saying that. I don't know whether it's emotional abuse or not, I doubt it, but they still treat me like I'm completely normal and haven't let me get any other treatment other than a therapist. I feel really alone because I don't have many friends, but they hate the fact that I'm not like other girls and don't try enough to be friends with them. To be honest, they make me feel very guilty and restricted from so many things, but I'm too scared to speak up about it.
Please, if any one has any advice or anything to say at all, it would be greatly appreciated.

James Hohn: I think a large dose of cortisol in the womb along with bipolar disorder type 2 in early adolescence gave me this.

Jay McCormack: Hey don't know if you will even read this but in the study of bpd recovery do you know if the patients were still on medication or not?

TanroeSimons: im this

raiders86 54: Quiet bpd is scary

Lether: It has a bad rep because it is horrible for the other person in a relationship. It can be bad enough dating "normal" women. It is absolutely the worst to date someone who you didn't know had BPD the entire time, and you realize you just wasted 5 years of your life for someone that can't be helped. She might have been ASPD even, but all they diagnosed was bipolar last year but they missed the mark for sure. So at best BPD gets marginally better after 10 years, and half remain completely unchanged! Steer clear of those people.

Adam Snyder: Sometimes I feel like a ghost merely witnessing the world.

Muphlon: 10 years of therapy... that's how much in dollars?

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