QUIET BORDERLINE! What is it? Mental Health, BPD & Kati Morton Borderline Personality Disorder?

Now BEFORE you watch this, please check out my first video about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPopjuKuweg&list=PL_loxoCVsWqwRYQO-u0iW_bjL_DpWBbd8 That will help you better understand what BPD is so that you can then add on the idea of "quiet borderline" and what that may look like and feel like. So the traditional way that we see and experience BPD is a very outward expressing or anger out way. We can be very volatile in our relationships and even struggle with suicidality. We worry a lot about others leaving us and almost cannot trust them to stay! So we can get very upset and hurt. We express this outwardly and it can be very hard on us and those who we are in relationship with. However, there are many of us who may relate to the symptoms of BPD, but do not lash out or express any emotion outwardly. We may instead, express it inward, and take it out on ourselves solely. Obviously, everyone expresses their diagnosis differently, so you may identify with all or none of this. Just keep in mind that this is why we need to see a professional and get a proper diagnosis before we jump to any conclusions. Those of us with a "quiet borderline" may have really needed a better or more nurturing parent. This can lead us to feeling like we don't really exist or that what we need and want is not acceptable. Another portion of BPD that could be seen as a "quiet borderline" trait are the areas of impulsivity. We may binge eat or use drugs or alcohol to cope, both of which are things that do to harm ourselves and could be done in private without sharing these struggles with anyone. So you can see how it can differ person to person, and some of us may not have the traditional BPD experience. Please keep in mind that no matter what diagnosis we are given, we still need to ask questions and express your own feelings and symptoms so that our treatment team can better understand what we are going through, and make sure we are getting the proper support! YOU CAN RECOVER!! REMEMBER THAT! MY FREE WORKBOOKS: Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC My SCHEDULE: MONDAY - New video release http://goo.gl/OUEsgM TUESDAY - Tumblr Tuesday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/79fMfa WEDNESDAY - Website & YouTube Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/CIp9b9 THURSDAY - Twitter Thursday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kL7ZjX FRIDAY - Facebook Friday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kjYLeR My PO Box: 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 OTHER: My Website: https://www.katimorton.com Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/katimorton Tumblr: https://www.katimorton.tumblr.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/GEht/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- recovery cutting psychology therapist

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Eva Waardenburg: Does this lady actually have any formal education?

MeowMsDavis: Thanks for the hope

Ekaterina Staneva: For the people above and many other who will read this - guys it does get better. If you work on it it does. I didn't know whats wring with me and 2 therapist failed to diagnose me before it came all out, because I seem like a stable, strong, logical woman, but the strom inside...oh dear God it was so bad. My body has scars of deep cuts, I almost lost my left kidney as a result of drug abuse, my friends were heavily addicted and equally sick, my relationships were difficult and obsessive. But I never gave up guys I never accepted that this will be my life. I decided to fight to get better even if it takes all life. What helped me - well I have been with a few therapists, I red books, forums, watched videos and were sharing with friends. So first is share and get info. Then your brain will process it all in few years it will start auto correcting and slowly dropping some of the toxic patterns. Yes meditation and spirituality. Yes science and studies. Yes hardcore work of general self development - work and workouts, university, money and so on. Sport, loads of sport. Dropping the bad substances or be balanced with them. Using is one thing addiction and abusing is another. 1 step forward 2 steps back, then 2 steps forward and so on. For the last 10 years I walked a long, crazy and quite often difficult way. I had love and I had fun but also a lot of drama, tears and difficulties. You need closure with the people who caused his as well if there are such people. Last but not least - you may find another way as well. I tried many many things and some helped a lot others a bit. I am 28 now. I am have been single for the last 3 years on and off, but I now feel way more complete and happy than before. Symptoms are often back but I know what causes them and I let then shake me for a while then I shake them off :) I have my BPD and codependency more or less under control. I laugh. I have great job, I am successful. I have good friends and significantly better relationship with my parents. I have lovers and I know a special someone will one day stick around for good and this time I will be way more mature and ready to engage in a healthy and beautiful love, hopefully even have family and kids in parallel to my career. So remember WORK HARD AND TAKE YOUR TIME LIFE IS A RIDE WITH UPS AND DOWNS. IT DOES GET BETTER FOR US BPD AND CODEPENDENCY FOLKS. IT REALLY DOES GET BETTER

Amy Jean: Are some people with BPD secretive, needy, always need help with everything and hypochondriacs?

RavenMadd9: thank you Kati

Apricot Curls: Cannot click on the videos at the end. Doesnt work.

TopHatKitty: Shit. I feel like this describes me a lot...

Jordyn LaRee: Thank you for this. There needs to be more videos addressing both sides of the borderline spectrum. I am a quiet borderline. I take everything... all my emotion and I put it on myself. I remember everything. My emotions stick to me. And I always blame myself for every thing. I can not stand when people say everyone with bpd is selfish and they don't care about others feelings. I care about other people too much. I care about them so much that it basically destroys me on the inside if I think I have hurt anyone. I put myslef before everyone in basically everything. And the times I try to put myslef first I always feel undeserving. I have a video on my channel that speaks about my bpd experience. In 2018 my goal is to go into more depth about the disorder and to educate more people. The Stigma for this disorder is awful and I want to do what I can to fix that.

Antun Anic: I may have all of this . Was fighting it for years and was damn good at it and then I overtried as I was dating person havin same thing and it was madness ...

Brett Koch: How do I learn to deal with the one I loved that is borderline? Any books or videos?

Chelsea Poser: My cousin is completely cured of borderline personality disorder! She is in her 30s, has a husband, a well paying job, and a plethora of degrees! There is hope. YOU WILL MAKE IT!

I might have borderline, myself. My psychologist and psychiatrist are debating it because it took me a while to 1. Open up 2. Sober up 3. Really be aware of my behaviors. DBT is not only a godsend for Borderlines but also people with ptsd, which I am currently diagnosed with, as well as bipolar and panic disorder. I am a binge eater, and a recovering addict alcoholic. I started therapy a year ago and I’m already changing. I also am part of AA and NA and I’m going to start going to OA to tackle my eating disorder. I think the most important part of handling mental illness is being as open as possible to help!!! Much love guys, I believe in you!

Amber Reece: This is exactly who I am. And I need help

Laura Cantrell: OMG I love you!

Dietz Audra: Thank you

Dietz Audra: Love this

WATER-MAN: I recently am recovering from a brutally painful breakup.
my girlfriend who was very quiet, just vanished on me...I mean extreme ghosting. not a word was said about anything being wrong. her dad called, and she packed her stuff, said she was going to get a change of clothing, she left hugged and kissed me goodbye. I went to take a bath and noticed her shampoo was gone. that's when I knew she wasn't coming back. and I have abandonment issues of my own. I called her immediately and I said point blank " your not coming back are you"? she replied, "yes after I am done" I said that "I guess then I'll see you If you come back". (I already knew) then she said in the most sincere voice: I love you;
I did not respond . and said Ill see you in a bit. but as expected she never returned. no email, (I sent two asking what happened and she never responded) no explanation, no text, no contact after that. it was the last time I saw her till I saw her on that date site.

I even wrote her a note left it on her door, asking her why she did this? and how much it hurt. and that I still loved her. she didn't respond at all. the next day I noticed(ok I checked) she was back on the dating site we met on. less than 10 days later?

HOW can a person do this??? how can they pretend to love you? say it with conviction? make love to me? stare into my eyes for hours?, and then suddenly leave??? am I the one with the borderline? or abandonment issues? if I had have told her that day I loved her, would it have changed anything? I'm so hurt and confused...I will not be the same after this. I'll never be able to trust what anyone says to me, I loved her. ANYONE? any reasons someone can show such a lack of empathy and compassion? yet pretend or be in love with you and then leave without an afterthought??/ ANYONE?

Kathy Goedert: yes it is a lifelong struggle—when every therapist or psychiatrist i have seen from the age 22-56 know nothing at all and have argued with me about Quiet Borderline because they never heard it. and they have failed to educate themselves even to the degree that i have personally, to the extent that i was never properly diagnosed in any way until I DIAGNOSED MYSELF, brought it in and was argued with and told by one psychiatrist “Yes, I’ve known that. “. For 5 years of intense suffering and suicidal behavior and hospitalizations. Yes, I am angry. I’ve missed so much of my life that i could have savored and even maybe even remembered (my children) if i had not been drowning in agony every day of my life, which fogged everything and went completely unrecognized as a diagnosis by any and every therapist i’ve ever seen. That’s been continuously for several decades. I’m in a DBT group now. I also have C-PTSD, which I also learned about on YouTube, and had confirmed by a “professional “ who never ever mentioned it before. There is a great video about why therapists don’t deal with personality disorders and apparently that’s because those things were just not taught or trained in them in a certain generation and my therapist confirmed that for me. That he at lease was unfamiliar with the traits of personality disorders or how to diagnose or treat them.
My question, after a lifetime of playing these things and constant thoughts of suicide since I was 17 years old, is
WHAT THE FUCK?!
I’d love to hear from anyone who’s had any kind of a similar experience.
My blog is coming early 2018, and maybe some public action and information out there for those of us who slipped through so many cracks and for those who didn’t have a chance and whom I at least remember and mourn for their unrelieved suffering. My brother was one. Gone.
Never forgotten.

middy444: I was diagnosed with BPD but it didn't fit me at all. So I thought I had quiet BPD, but it still didn't feel right.

Turns out it was Aspergers. So anyone who thinks they're quiet BPD but feels like it's wrong, check this out.

رقية شرعية: you are very intelligent and copassionate person

idk cool nicknames: ALSO BINGE EATING

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