Borderline Personality Disorder is BAD? therapist kati morton talking BPD, psychology & therapy

Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com TWITTER http://www.twitter.com/katimorton FACEBOOK http://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 TUMBLR http://www.katimorton.tumblr.com PINTEREST http://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 HELP! SUBTITLE VIDEOS http://goo.gl/OZOQXi WE NEED YOUR HELP! Subtitle videos if you know English or any other languages! You can help people who are either hearing impaired or non native English speaking. By doing this, you are helping others and strengthening our community. MY FREE WORKBOOKS Easy to follow at home workbooks for your mental health Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC KATIFAQ VIDEOS Wondering if I have answered a question like yours? Search for it here: http://goo.gl/1ECSlO MY VIDEO SCHEDULE Monday - New mental health topic video Thursday -q&a's, guests, mental health in the news, etc SENDING KATI STUFF PO Box 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 BUSINESS INQUIRIES info@katimorton.com Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/Hhgz/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-

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Madison Mindfulness: I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I feel like a horrible person.
I used to be scared of people because I was scared of getting hurt.
But after learning about my illness, I now avoid relationships because I don't want to hurt and burden everyone else. I am lonely, and I hate myself. I lost the man I love, because he couldn't take it anymore. I didn't know back then about my illness back then, but if I did I would have saved him from all the pain and my delusions.
People tell me I am a good girl, even if I don't believe it. I am just sick, and I will fix it- for everyone, and finally bring happiness to the people I love...

Kaylee Birt: Hi, new to all of this, just found your channel and subscribed. You say people with BPD usually have traumatic pasts in your video. Is it possible to have BPD and not know why? I feel that I do. I've been to a couple different therapists and honestly wasn't a fan of it. I gave it a couple shots. Honestly when I started feeling depressed, I was excited. I saw it as a big debate with this voice in my head, and I was determined to win. But lately, I haven't been winning. I honestly don't want to continue therapy but I'm not sure if there's any other options for me at this point.

Elliot: This was very helpful, Thank you for sharing.

In Australia BPD is relatively unknown or avoided like the plague. Doctors are likely to ask simple questions and throw pills at you till you go away (If you talk about BPD level suicidal thoughts and dreams you will be locked up/hospitalised). I have gotten to a point where I am very asocial. I find company and 'dealing with people' to be a painful experience. Every day I wake up, I feel that I am new person, set in this scared body with these memories and behaviors/drives.

Cannabis helps. Anyone else?

Time to get ready for work... Have a great day Y'all

Matt Day: I have recently identified with a lot of what BPD "is" and it still upsets me to watch these videos. I say this in a good way because a finally understand that my mind is not me and I can have some inner peace at last. I see living with this as a part of my life that I can learn to listen to less and live more in the moment. If you identify with BPD, I relate to QBPD, then the first thing do realise is that you are not alone, accept your life and learn to love you and not "be your mind".

Jenny Colosi: I had a good friend with bpd (unfortunately she's not here anymore :(). she had good intentions most of the time, but got a little carried away with her ideas/emotions sometimes.

Chris C: Uh BPD is very bad. I was accused of rape by a girl who I turned down for sex at a party. I went to court and almost lost my scholarships over this girl. She confessed in court she made it up and my lawyer uncovered she does this every year to someone because of her BPD. I didn't even know what that was.

Karicat Watts: Kati, I saw this video that said the person with bpd is doomed. It actually said they're doomed and will never change. I hope my ass chewing made whoever rethink or take down the disinforming death sentence.
You're awesome.

jovic jovita: Am 19yrs i have been fighting with some thing i don't know and just asking myself why do i feel abandoned why do i change mood with no control of them i don't have friends because of the way my moods change and because i don't trust anyone ever time i get to interact with someone i just have fear that in no time he or she is going to leave me. i leave in life of blaming my self whenever any one close to me gets hurt that's why now i avoid getting friends because for me being in any relationship is so painful in many cases because am so sensitive i see things in my way say something to me am going to think about it and some times misinterpret it in differently. I was mentally and physically abused and what hurts me most is that i was abused by my real mother when i was young due to family break up so she used to blame us for the mistakes our dad made. When i moved far from home i thought i have got another life but what hurts me most is that my past still lives with me though it's so painful and i feel bad because it looks like there is no hope of getting out of this

I C: do i have to be diagnosed or can i just know i have it and treat myself with the workbook? i dont want to go to therapy because i have bad insurance and the place is like a run down sad clinic and hard for me to describe my situation to the therapists because i get so upset. can the workbook be just as helpful as formal therapy? thank you

bathsheba: There is no such thing.

afriendcalled5: my parents were very negligent, my father was a Vietnam vet alcoholic psychopath. my mother was a workaholic who had no time for me or my sibs. i tried killing myself the first time at the tender age of 13. and continued....later in life, i was abducted and raped by a stranger in a very dangerous city. Fuck yes i hurt. have i hurt others? fuck. yes. but i strive to do better. ive burned way too many bridges. im married with a 5 year old. i live in a nice suburb far, far away from my old haunts. i swear AA and DBT does wonders.

Kshitij Soni: I am an Indian suffering from BPD. Where can I find this DBT workbook in India? Please share some information on it.

jodi Brazel: Thank you this has been my life I'm 27 and tried to take my life over twenty times I've had a horrific childhood and this has helped

Maggie Ann Simard: I really needed this

newromantic999: Best video I have seen on the topic. Thank you.

newromantic999: Are the people that abuse and traumatise people to the point where they acquire BDP bad themselves or are they above normal moral judgement and able to abuse with impunity. People seem good at blaming the victim and punishing the punished. Sadly that is the mind of normal people. Punish the punished for being punished. The abuser is always right.

xxxjess ie: I was thinking about what you said and thinking about how I've never been abandoned and I have a close kinda unstable relationship with my mom but I remembered that I am adopted and I know know my birth mom and I don't know shit probably never will about my dad. But it never bothered me and I don't really care so you think that I'm just in denial about it and it really could have affected me?

Jason Smith: If they're not bad people then why do they need to get better? Narcissism and manipulation hurts people. My life was destroyed by a person with BPD. So the answer is yes they are bad people. It's easier to work with truth than deception. We have to call it as it is

suit yourself: I get called a faker and manipulative and all those kinds of things but I don't set out to do these things on purpose.

AmiableMisanthrope: You are doing such great things. I was diagnosed last month, and your videos have been a tremendous instrument in my Healing. Your channel deserves every subscriber! Keep up the excellent work. :)

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