Borderline Personality Disorder is BAD? therapist kati morton talking BPD, psychology & therapy

Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com A BIG THANK YOU to my Patreon Patrons! Without you, I couldn't keep creating videos. xoxo https://www.patreon.com/katimorton I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos! Business email: linnea@toneymedia.com Download my workbooks: visit Itunes and search for Kati Morton Mail: PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403

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Cecilia Morales: I have it and its a nightmare . it sucks.

Brandy Adams: I have that same work book. I never worked in it because it felt overwhelming to face all of my emotional baggage.

Britt Downard: I have BPD, ironically enough it's also my initials. I have a very difficult time trusting people and I'm constantly in the swirl of self hate, fear, anxiety, etc. But I work very hard to not let it affect the important things. I don't care much about friends because people come and go, so I make friends, hang out with them for awhile, and then generally move on after a bit. But I stay close with my mother and I've been dating my gf for about a year, and we haven't had a single argument. I know my mind isn't right, so if something bothers me I try really hard to understand the perspective of the other person and I give it time. If I'm still upset about it in a day, then I bring it up, but I've never had to do that with my gf. We came from very different backgrounds, but we get each other. She has anxiety and depression and I have a big ole cluster fuck of mental shit going on. I don't take my problems out on her and she doesn't take hers out on me. If anything, we've found a good balance. She calms me when I'm being irrational and treats me like a person. In exchange I do my best to improve her life. I stand up for her or help her with social interactions and I do my best to protect her. She grew up in a strict household, she's very mature, and not a lot of attention was given to her issues because she was so well adjusted. I'm used to taking care of people so she finally has someone to just consider her. Her maturity also has helped me really get my life in order. Things are working for us, BUT it's because I realize that I'm not perfectly sane. When I was younger, I was angry. I was abused as a kid, a lot of family problems, I was a gay Pentecostal Christian- that was a real bitch, and when I was in high school, my brother went to Afghanistan, my dad left, and then my mom left within a six month period. Spent a good bit of time homeless. And I pitied myself. So I did bad things. I fought people, robbed people, I did anything I could to be seen as a threat so people stopped fucking with me. And it worked. But it felt like I lost something. Ended up with this girl a couple years ago. Loved her, but she was awful. Mean, manipulative, even killed my dog. BUT she called me out on my bullshit. Which is when it hit me that I deserved her. I wasn't good, so that's why we matched. I decided I didn't want to deserve that anymore. I left the state and moved across the country to a place where I didn't know anyone. And then I started over. That's around the time I met my new girl. But anyway, I try to help the homeless as often as possible because I've been there. I want to be a park ranger and protect nature and teach kids about wildlife. Animals are better than people, and I'm really good at taking care of things. My entire point of this long ass post, a ship isn't steered by it's wake. Your past doesn't have to control your future. Try to find purpose and acknowledge your issues. If you catch yourself thinking about how awful you are, try to remember that it doesn't have to be reality unless you let it. And sometimes your weaknesses can be strengths. Because I don't care a lot about people, I don't worry to much about how I'm perceived so I'm able to make small talk and make new friends quickly. If I get an interview, there's a 99% choice I'll get it. I'm paranoid which has gotten my family and friends out of a lot of tricky situations, also I'm really good at security work because I observe closely. I'm a very emotional person so I relate to people's problems well, and I've put up with so much insanity, I can handle other people's mental illnesses well. I feel a lot of emotions which makes me passionate. I see a lot of beauty in the world. Also, If you get upset, i recommend charitymiles. Listen to Head On (hold on to your heart) by man man- it reminds me to try to be loving and hopeful (cheesy I know), Go for a walk, clear your head, and money gets donated to a charity of your choice. Just some advice. I'm rooting for you guys. Shit can get much, much better. Just be patient and know I love y'all.

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wot dephoque: Is it possible to have BPD and be an introvert and have depression / anxiety?

ThatWeirdKidAaron: BPD sounds complicated, but I don’t think it makes someone bad. Wouldn’t that be more of a narcissistic personality disorder? Or a psychopath?

Lisa Boulier: Your not going to tell anyone to shut the hell up. We will just try harder to get your kind locked up.

Lisa Boulier: It's not all a lie. You will cause someone to get seriously hurt by one of these vile beings. This disorder isn't a funny joke! There are alot of destroyed people because you ppl can't control yourselves.

Lisa Boulier: And not all of us have been abused by one. Stop trying to minimize the abuse these creatures put onto others. Your trauma bullshit is yours, and yours alone. You have no right to interact with others to take on this bullshit. Your delusional to minimize this! And i hope every person on the planet learns about this evil disorder.

Desert Rose: Kati, you're just admirable! Thank you for all the heartfelt work you do!!! I can only imagine how helpful your videos, your empathy and understanding are for people watching them! They sure are for me! 😊 So glad to have stumbled upon your channel! (And I gladly share it too! 😉) Wishing you all the best!

Soko H.: None of you have this gtfo

Mollie Fredrickson: Do you have to have had a traumatic past or abandonment in the past to have BPD? Or is it possible to develop it without those things?

Gothic Faerie: oh my god, this is such an important video. When I suspected I had BPD (was diagnosed later) all I saw was every article, website and book saying how crazy people with BPD are and how nobody should ever be close to them, and dating isn't even an option so I pushed my friends away, and threw away my idea of ever having a relationship of any kind so I wouldn't hurt them.

Jessica VonBlack: Thank you so much for this video.. it was really needed

Madhura Jakhi: i have difficulty in keeping relationships with others and feel really very intense emotions than my friends do, i can relate to every symptom of bpd very clearly, but how will i know if i have it or not?, i actually started noticing it after i had a major episode of anxiety and depression, but i feel i always tend to be more dramatic for others

jon krueger: What I've noticed many BPD sufferers never address is the impact their actions have on other people. The question is not whether or not they are "bad" (by the way I sympathize with your struggle and deeply hope that your recovery is inspiring and that you find profound peace), but rather, are the things they do to others "bad"? Those of us whom have been victims of BPD sufferers can't help but notice a seemingly complete lack of empathy and accountability. Again and again, I see videos where sufferers claim they have above average empathy, and yet it has been my experience, and the experience of many people, that there is no or little observable evidence of anything that even approaches typical empathy. I think the people to whom you refer who spread "misinformation" are actually warning people about the dangers of having a BPD sufferer in your life. I very much wish I could have been dissuaded from dating a person with BPD it has, no exaggeration, been hellish, nightmarish. On the other hand, I wish I could have been sufficiently supportive and caring to help that person, but I tried extremely hard; I'm can't be perfect. I'm optimistic about treatment and hope many sufferers watch your video and learn about treatment options. This is a little rambling so I apologize, but I want to just come around again to the idea that many of us worry that a BPD diagnosis is "permission" to treat people cruelly. I'm glad videos like yours exist -I truly am but I also think it's unfair the victims' suffering largely goes unaddressed. Thank you.

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cat lady: I just adore your eyebrows! They are great!

jefflg1967: Thank you so very much. 🙂

J.S. Whetsell: I have watched this video many times... Thank you so very much. You really helped me explain this to my family and friends. The way you put it makes it seem much less scary for myself and others close to me.

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