Borderline Personality Disorder is BAD? therapist kati morton talking BPD, psychology & therapy

Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com TWITTER http://www.twitter.com/katimorton FACEBOOK http://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 TUMBLR http://www.katimorton.tumblr.com PINTEREST http://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 HELP! SUBTITLE VIDEOS http://goo.gl/OZOQXi WE NEED YOUR HELP! Subtitle videos if you know English or any other languages! You can help people who are either hearing impaired or non native English speaking. By doing this, you are helping others and strengthening our community. MY FREE WORKBOOKS Easy to follow at home workbooks for your mental health Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC KATIFAQ VIDEOS Wondering if I have answered a question like yours? Search for it here: http://goo.gl/1ECSlO MY VIDEO SCHEDULE Monday - New mental health topic video Thursday -q&a's, guests, mental health in the news, etc SENDING KATI STUFF PO Box 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 BUSINESS INQUIRIES info@katimorton.com Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/Hhgz/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-

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Sally Ngo: I don't get a bypass for being a horrible human being and I acknowledge that. Nobody hates borderlines more than they hate themselves. I feel like the villain because of my disorder. I wish I didn't have to feel intensely. I wish I didn't hurt the people I love because of what I have. I'm trying to get better but people don't like me because they think BPD is an excuse for bad behaviour.

William Gavras: The diagnosis doesn't make you bad; it's the evil they perpetrate that makes them bad. There are always reasons why people act badly. Hitler had his excuses. Borderlines just feel sorry for themselves and they have their apologists. This lady just renamed evil as "symptoms."

MeadioKringus: I have every symptom of BPD extremely bad, yet I have had no past trauma or anything like that. Why? I don't get it. I'm pretty sure I'm just an awful person I don't know if I'd even say it's a disorder :/

Doug Joseph: Every person is a combination of good and bad. No one is always a saint or always a sinner. Good and bad comes from what you do, and you are always a work in progress.

Ally Holt: I always thought I was a bad person for having BPD. I have a hard time explaining it to my loved ones

Kirstie Moyer: glad I found this, might check out that book. sad to see people literally saying if you have bpd your a murderer or worse.

ITIsFunnyDamnIT: I have BPD, but I do not have any trauma,PTSD, and I had a very nurturing family.In other words I have NO excuse. So, I guess I am a bad person. It is understandable if you are someone who went through trauma or didn't have nurturing parents. But if you didn't have any of that and had a good up bringing than in most people eyes there is no excuse and you are a bad person. An I have been told by a DR. that Dr.'s HATE dealing with my kind ( BPD ) sigh,,,,,,,,: (

Cherie Cl: I broke up with my girlfriend an year ago because both have a bpd. She was the love of my life, never love so much before. But everything was too... too strong too bad, too happy, too much... so she was really sick, and I was very sick. We were in love like never before, but at the same time was a constantly nightmare. Now I cry almost everyday. I have a boyfriend. He understand just a little bit of my sickness and I m so tired to explain how I feel...
Your video make me feel better, so thank you. You re really good.

Beth Imhoff: Do you have a link to that workbook?

Janice Mercier Mercier: Destroyed my life.

Timothy Grisack: The biggest hurdle to overcome with a person with BPD are the lies!!!! Infidelity, and the worst of all quitting professional treatment.

Gillyweed 7: I'd like to add: there are no 'bad' people. There are no 'good' people. There are just people. All people have some 'bad', some 'good' and neutral in them.

Sara Taher: I really wish you see this katie
I suffered in my childhood with a heart disease and done multiple surgeries below the age of 8 .. does this may explain my anxiety, depression, self harm?

Karolynn Cevidanes: Thank you so much for all your videos on bpd. It's so difficult but hearing you really helps 😌

Andrea Catalano: BPDs are not only bad, they are very dangerous.

Beatriz Arellano: greetings from a border girl

Matt Day: Your videos are keeping me going right now so thank you for uploading the content. I have some mental health well being issues (dont like the word illness). As a QBPD I find Self Hate as the most destructive element to my "happiness". I spent a lot of my life in emotional isolation, trying to deal with difficult feeling and thoughts. I have had substance/alcohol issues in the past. I even spent 12 years in the military hoping that would help me. Having left the Military two years ago I have had a very dark couple of years. It has been a real struggle to get help as I find it very hard to be an emotional man child that cant handle emotional criticism.Everyday I have a crises of one type or the other, I cant use mindfulness 50-60 times a day....I am a Lecturer now so that's not realistic, I end up bottling everything up during the day and cant seem to pull myself out of these emotional nosedives. Self Hate and seeing people as a set of needs has caused years of on/off depression (with some severe episodes and suicidal thoughts) Whilst I have never self harmed in the traditional sense I have lots of behaviors that cause me emotional pain...a place that I feel I deserve to be 24/7. Having sought help a couple of times over the last 20 years my life has been a difficult journey. Diagnosed with recurring depression and anxiety but never seeming to get the right help (Medicating my condition has helped with depression/anxiety but not with the core of the issue) I cant seem to present accurately when I see a therapist as I have feelings that I am just lazy, immature and a bit of a drama queen. So I play things down and spend months feeling helpless. I find it really hard to tell people what is going on with me as I dont seem distressed (on the outside) and I feel their awkwardness/resentment or just a total lack of understanding. I dont need a hug and "Your great" chats. I feel so alone sometimes and the spend a lot of time trying to self sooth and calm myself down but I dont have the tools to do that right now. Negativity has ruined my life and I get so tired trying to fight through everyday. It feels so hard sometimes and so lonely that I cant get out of bed/house/my head. Thanks again for the videos, they have helped me get on the right path.

theworldinnit: Hello my fellow borderlines - I've started a new facebook page that's
going to be a community for positivity and support - not wallowing in
our diagnosis or not self-helping. (Sounds harsh I know.) Please feel
free to take a look, it's quite bare right now as I've only just started
it but I'd appreciate your input! - The Borderline Life.

Догстралиа: No, treating people badly, and creating problems makes you a bad person.

Daniella Love: You are awesome Katie. my sister has this and has suffered deep trauma throughout her life. She can be very challenging at times with her fibbing, manipulating, and extreme emotions, but I love her, support her, and understand. She is not bad, just hurting, and has a lot to deal with. Thanks for making this video. You rock. 💛

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