Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com A BIG THANK YOU to my Patreon Patrons! Without you, I couldn't keep creating videos. xoxo https://www.patreon.com/katimorton I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos! Business email: email@example.com Download my workbooks: visit Itunes and search for Kati Morton Mail: PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403
Bethany Fisher: This made me smile :) just accidentally watched a video hating on BPD individuals and it made me sad. I try so hard to please people, do good things, do the right things, so when hearing that some people think that BPD sufferers do this to themselves and so they're bad people makes me feel bad, but watching your video makes me feel better so thank you 😊💙
Mud Skipper: Why doesn't kate respond to any of these posts with great questions and people needing help
Mud Skipper: The haters balanced diet is not stigmas
The hated balanced diet is not euphemisms
Sophie Konishi: My mom is literally a textbook case of BPD ( her hospital psychiatrist literally used her as an example in his textbook only used initials but asked my dad if it was okay as he was her power of attorney at that time) she is however in denial. And refuses to get help as she seems attached to the sympathetic reaction she gets for being sick.
schmui: Is BPD bad? Sure.
I think you meant to say "are people with BPD evil?"
They're like cancer. Is cancer bad? Sure it is. Is it evil?
That would require a real self, an actual consciousness.
I have yet to meet someone with BPD who's not just a bland pile of nothing with a deceivingly human appearance making your life a little shittier each day.
Too MeIrl: Kati, will you please comment on a youtuber’s content? Her channel is called Little Shaman, and she has a video explaining why borderlines can’t benefit from therapy and recover.
Toa Onua: There wouldn't be so much stigma if 99% of women with BPD didn't always refuse to seek treatment and try to rationalize their poor treatment of the other people in their lives. I'm sick of these people using their faults to become absolute sociopaths.
Mud Skipper: Trauma is no excuse to cause trauma
Ryan Holmes: No we are not "BAD" we just experience the world differently.
Rod Kali: For me, going to sleep is still a major stress. I've noticed that if isolated for too long without any social obligation and therefore contact (preferred- don't have to risk judgement) I become absorbed in a sort of positive mental flow that I fear I won't be able to reattach to in the morning. this can Cause me to stay awake for days, until I both mentally and physically crash. I know that any and every day is like living in a video game where sleep =death. When I awake, yesterday's emotional investments interests and attachments, moments and decisions will be emotionally forgotten. right before bed I must meditate on this days logical acheivment. I know not to rely on my emotions, however the side affect is pure logical numbness. It's either perfect and logical and methodical and neutral and unbiased or nothing at all.
Liz Biz: Are those wit BPD more likely to develop NPD than other types of mental disorders?
The Peanut Gallery: Other than childhood trauma what kind of things could lead to BPD?
rob bates: I have bpd your video is fantastic for people with that don't yet understand about it can I ask something, what if you do feel things strongly, what does it mean if one of the emotions don't come through I very rarely get upset(crying) not anger? Any help would be great full
Mr. Beanz: They can be because they can be very abusive.
Carolyn Leger: This was was great you nailed it !
blackwaterthreat: Yes, they are.
chirastu thakur: Thank you very much for the video you are awesome and an loving pure soul I hope remain happy and healthy all your life and your family and friends also remain happy and healthy all their life and the world remain at peace
Joel Shen: They may not be bad people / they may not live life with the intention of being a bad person. They may not even seek to be manipulative or toxic.
But the way their behaviour manifests, and the energy they give off, is bad. This alone makes them bad people.
If they can't control their emotions and people around them have to walk on eggshells ALL THE TIME, then this makes them bad people, and have a mental illness can never justify why they hurt people around them.
They may not even seek to be manipulative or toxic, but if their behaviour appears to be so, then they ARE manipulative and toxic, whether they intended to or not. When there is a pattern that repeats itself over and over, we can rightly say that BPDs are manipulative, toxic, and bad people.
We can't be coddling toxic individuals like that and say 'awwww they have a mental illness, IT'S OKAY IF THEY MISTREAT ME'.
No dear, it's not okay if ANYONE MISTREATS YOU, mental illness or no mental illness.
Put them in their place, and let them know if they will not learn to control their behaviour, then the relationship or friendship of any sort is over. I have no time for drama in my life.
And to anyone who says I'm not a supportive person, how do you know I wasn't? Having had tried my best to make that person feel better, and support that person, I got nothing but drama and accusations of wrongdoing - is dealing with a BPD worth the drama? - HELL NO.
My experience with one has made me come to this conclusion. So, accept it or reject it, I don't care.
DeAtHaToMiC: Are people with bpd bad?... Some are and some aren't.
Can a person with bpd be abusive and manipulative yes, usually they generally are because of the bpd... Does that mean that everyone who has bpd leaves a trail of broken, confused cptsd riddled people? No.
I dislike the argument that just because someone has been the victim of abuse they are then abuse victims and should get away with multiple times of being abusive or overly manipulative, physically abusive... It's to be expected if you are with a person who has a personality disorder things won't always be normal and weird issues pop up from time to time, allowances should be made... Having said that when a person with bpd or any personality disorder abuses you constantly, continuously and ruthlessly that person is a bad person, regardless of any past trauma... You should not allow abuse to be called anything but abuse... And if the person won't learn and continues what else would qualify the person to be bad?
We don't say that pedophiles and rapists (going ott) have had bad upbringings and so they need help and not judging, so why are we allowing someone with a personality disorder get away with long term abuse? It can just as damaging to the individual.
bubblegum221: My sister-in-Law said I’m not a bad person because I’m trying to be better for those around me. It’s changed my self-talk completely, when I think I’m bad I remember I’m trying to be good and that means I am good. Thank you for this video, it helps so much.
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