Borderline Personality Disorder is BAD? therapist kati morton talking BPD, psychology & therapy

Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com TWITTER http://www.twitter.com/katimorton FACEBOOK http://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 TUMBLR http://www.katimorton.tumblr.com PINTEREST http://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 HELP! SUBTITLE VIDEOS http://goo.gl/OZOQXi WE NEED YOUR HELP! Subtitle videos if you know English or any other languages! You can help people who are either hearing impaired or non native English speaking. By doing this, you are helping others and strengthening our community. MY FREE WORKBOOKS Easy to follow at home workbooks for your mental health Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC KATIFAQ VIDEOS Wondering if I have answered a question like yours? Search for it here: http://goo.gl/1ECSlO MY VIDEO SCHEDULE Monday - New mental health topic video Thursday -q&a's, guests, mental health in the news, etc SENDING KATI STUFF PO Box 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 BUSINESS INQUIRIES info@katimorton.com Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/Hhgz/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-

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xxxjess ie: I was thinking about what you said and thinking about how I've never been abandoned and I have a close kinda unstable relationship with my mom but I remembered that I am adopted and I know know my birth mom and I don't know shit probably never will about my dad. But it never bothered me and I don't really care so you think that I'm just in denial about it and it really could have affected me?

Jason Smith: If they're not bad people then why do they need to get better? Narcissism and manipulation hurts people. My life was destroyed by a person with BPD. So the answer is yes they are bad people. It's easier to work with truth than deception. We have to call it as it is

suit yourself: I get called a faker and manipulative and all those kinds of things but I don't set out to do these things on purpose.

AmiableMisanthrope: You are doing such great things. I was diagnosed last month, and your videos have been a tremendous instrument in my Healing. Your channel deserves every subscriber! Keep up the excellent work. :)

Beth H.: People with BPD aren't "bad." HOWEVER, their symptoms can drive them to act in a way that is harmful to others, and it is their responsibility to be mindful of that.

Michelle judd: I have BPD and why because my parent's should not or produced they were not capable so no , it comes from our childhood. How could people with a so called Brady Bunch upbringing understand .

Nilam Khadgi: I don't like cbt

Nilam Khadgi: what is dpt

lolayjay: kati, i have that same workbook & it's been really helping me!!! i've been on a path of self diagnosis & it's been really tough, but that DBT workbook has been helping a lot. :)

Niere H: I mean well depending on the person. If your not bad then your a pice of shit. There's a difference in being bad and being a pice of shit. Piece of shit meaning that you are a walking living constant fuck up a big time failure honestly. A bad person is like hitler. You know killing people yourself or getting people killed now that bad.

Sukhleen Kaur: i am living in india and here people say bpd is nothing and i do purously all the stuff and i am a cruel person people even the doctors are not wiliing to help i genuially need a help but nobody understands here

KillerQueen: I don't remember a trauma from my past and my mum was the best care giver in the world, but I still ended up with BPD. Why ?

Ari Michelle: you are absolutely amazing! thank you thank you thank you. it's so hard to find a good source for help...and you really care. love you sister đź’— love and light

Flora Schlesinger: wonderful video!
I wish more people who condemn those with BPD could see this!

Thank you for this.

Giovana Arruda Xoxo: Borderline waif here. Extremely depressed since a kid. Don't have a life. Tried suicide 3 times. Have no friends, never had friends or relationships, never never a job cause I run away in job interviews cause I have anxiety attacks. My life is ruined..

Nichole Alexandra: I honeslty, without a doubt, believe i have borderline. Ive been diagnosed with depression and adhd and i have self harm issues and ed behaviors ect. How do i bring up this "self diagnoses" to my therapist without him thinking i'm seeking attention or something idk

Alicia Jones: thank you xxx

pinooot-noir: I do think that many people with BPD are great people, just like anyone else. But I have a sibling with BPD that made my life a living hell. He would tear our family apart and take out everything on me (the younger sibling) because of his insecurity towards our parents. His symptoms and actions triggered a whole cascade of events in my family that ended up hurting me. I still struggle with those experiences. I'm not one to self diagnose, but it get ptsd vibes, or at least very noticeable reactions from that abuse and those memories. He's abused the people he's dated and treated his friends like shit. He's manipulated everyone around him. I have no hesitation in saying he's a bad person.

When people talk about those cases of "dangerous" people with BPD, I know it is a real thing. However, I don't think that having BPD alone necessarily makes anyone a bad person. Your disorder, your past, your trauma, etc doesn't make you a bad person. Your actions and your effort are what matter. It makes me so sad that plenty of wonderful people get grouped in with the bad apples and have to face the stigma and cultural shame. People with BPD deserve help, support, friends, and love just as much as anyone else.

secular society: Katie Morton
I believe I have bpd. I think i was in a relationship with a sociopath. he was a chronic Liar and manipulated me a lot. He said it was all my fault. He had a past with threesomes hookers and porn.
He said he hated the way I reacted when I caught him in these sites. I had a lot of reactive abuse and acted out I feel i destroyed the relationship. can you do a video on that kind of relationship? I felt like Harley Quinn and he was the Joker but obviously not as dramatic. I played tit for tat instead of letting him go because I really felt I was in love. he seemed to be attentive giving and romantic far beyond what i had experienced
before. I feel awful.

pixie1310: You need to do a video about all the BPD's who have attachment issues to you (like myself) and how to cope with never meeting you....please.....

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