Borderline Personality Disorder is BAD? therapist kati morton talking BPD, psychology & therapy

Negative videos seem to be going up about borderline personality disorder, specifically therapy, healthcare and mindfulness. I think that because so many people (professionals included) talk negatively about BPD, those of us who struggle with it can feel like it's hopeless and helpless. The truth is that BPD is something you can overcome! Yes it is a lot of work, but if we don't like how we are feeling then we have to do something about it to change it. Right?! It is my opinion that BPD is caused by either a lack of attachment to a primary care giver (mom, dad, grandma, etc) when we are a baby or it is caused by trauma. The attachment struggle can later lead to us trying to "fill" that need by other people in our lives, while also feeling scared that they will leave us too. So we want people around, and we want love and support, but we also fear that we can't trust people to be there for us and so we often try to push them away or even run away ourselves. Trauma can also lead to a lack of trust or feelings of safety. Therefore, our emotions can sort of "come out of nowhere" and we instantly feel scared and unsafe. Both of these situations lead us to feeling scared, not safe or trusting of those around us. That will make relationships very difficult. But does that make you a bad person? Absolutely not. I hope that you found this video helpful. Please share!! Because the more positive and accurate information we have out there the better. xox Videos about BPD: https://youtu.be/zPopjuKuweg https://youtu.be/E56S5cWSvuw Video about DBT: https://youtu.be/hDJi86n9-Rk Video with Hannah! https://youtu.be/KIBiRsK7uBA Website http://www.katimorton.com A BIG THANK YOU to my Patreon Patrons! Without you, I couldn't keep creating videos. xoxo https://www.patreon.com/katimorton I'm Kati Morton, a licensed therapist making Mental Health videos! Business email: linnea@toneymedia.com Download my workbooks: visit Itunes and search for Kati Morton Mail: PO Box #665 1223 Wilshire Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90403

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cat lady: I just adore your eyebrows! They are great!

jefflg1967: Thank you so very much. 🙂

J.S. Whetsell: I have watched this video many times... Thank you so very much. You really helped me explain this to my family and friends. The way you put it makes it seem much less scary for myself and others close to me.

JAYMES Fairless: fml

TTundragrizzly: BPD is a disorder, NOT a disibility.

Jennifer Eddy: If you are in the beginning of treatment...screen your living situation before the lease is signed. All relationships have pos/neg behavioral traits of each person entering into the relationship. If there is dishonesty, denial within a support system, weak links, lack of communication between providers and the support system...especially someone you don't have a history with things can get very messy.

Gabriella Neufeld: You're awesome

Bob Bob: absolutely amazing and accurate:)

Emma Nolan: I don't have bpd but have several friends that do and thank you for this much more compassionate approach to them, then I usually see on the internet.

Lady Bug: Could you talk about Covert Narcissism from what I know they ARE BAD even if its for a wound because they chose to hurt others.My Mother was molested and abused a s a child had a cold mother passed all of that down to me and my children through her abuse. I've never intentional hurt my kids but my mother did damage to them anyhow. She sexually and emotionally abused them and my self when i was a child via men, uncle s boyfriends whom ever.

Lady Bug: Thank You ! Thank you! Thank you ! For understanding BPD I know I'm not bad because I don't set out to hurt people, I always end up hurting myself. I feel unworthy of love. My self criticizing inner voice is very bad though I don't often voice it. Starting with an emotionally unavailable and abusive mother and grandmother. I was then in one physically and emotionally abusive relationship after another.My husband also have BPD and was abusive towards me but since a long separation due to circumstances he has changed a lot . However we both struggle with push and pull and i'm so afraid of losing him because of my crazy cycles.They hurt so bad. Then when I'm not in a cycle I feel pretty normal. I worry about my kids. My older daughter won't even speak to me largely due to her father, she now has a AS in psychology and doesn't even bother to consider my past what I went through or maybe she had who was hateful towards people with BPD. It doesn't help that my mother my abuse who by the orchestrated sexual abuse, by different perpetrators has told my family this is all lies and I'm evil. She has said I'm on drugs this and that. When in fact I'm remarried have a new baby and been in college half time for 6 consecutive years. To me it obvious she is laying blame to avoid the heat of all the destruction she has caused ! I never remembered this abuse until my son told me she and her husband were abusing him and had been for years but he was provoked to tell me as the had started on his little sister and were trying to make him" accidentally" shoot me with a gun . He has said these things to our family, but everyone shrugs it off by says I made him say it. I can't understand this because I'm very blunt almost having no filter and I hate liars!.I am so tired of being hated and blamed when all I ever tried to do is love and protect my kids they chose to believe someone they talk to once or twice a year on the phone? My daughter wont even see me anymore. What about these monsters who leave us with this horrible legacy ?

Alisha: I love how you explain this so well. Thank you for the video, and thank you for not stigmatizing BPD sufferers. I almost want to say victims, because a lot honestly are victims of abuse, who get judged, stigmatized, and whatnot from a backlash of others, who just don't really understand it and who just can't empathize and have basic human compassion. I'm just so tired of the stigma. To me, those people, who do that, are honestly the real problem, because they have no idea what they're talking about.

Audrey Offield: Katie Morton so glad there are people .

Ingvild Kvakestad: I had trauma 8 years Of bullying my almost suicide attempt. And my parents did ignore my mental health

Desii Ramos: I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, with no real problems in our marriage and I trust him. I don’t think I’m a shitty person. I had a shitty mom. But that doesn’t make me BPD. The lady that did my intake asked a few questions and wrote it in my chart. My councilor is saying that I don’t have it though. I help people. I asked him how someone who is confident and has a strong personality have BPD? And he said good question. But I do have CPTSD. So hopefully that gets fixed because I don’t have a hard time with building relationships. I don’t trust people right off the bat but I do trust people.

TheLmack8: Someone I love has BPD symptoms mixed in with PTSD. I wish there was clearer info on how to help people with BPD. I love her, She rocks, but she has hurt me, and that sucks. I have my own issues, and it took me a few years to notice that the more time i spent with her the more depressed, angry and suicidal I felt. The more she made me part of her support system, the more guilt I had to carry and the more I hated myself and her. She was always hurting, always angry, then not angry. One of the most painful things she does to me is "WHY DID YOU LET ME DO THAT??"" after she would get into one of her bad cycles. She literally can not hear "Don't sleep with that strange guy, just get his number" she would take it as judgement and lash out, or convince herself that He Is The One. The one time I literally pulled her out of a bar and almost got into a fight with someone she GUSHED about how loved she felt. She kept telling the story like I was her angel. It was one of the worst moments of my adult life. A person I love was acting more and more recklessly in order to make me do that. I did not speak to her for months. We are friends again, but i don't know if she understands why I don't go to her house anymore, and why i am less in her life. I tired to explain, but she seemed to hear "I am broken, I am sad" and took anything else as an attack. ONCE i wrote her an honest e-mail. Might not have been nice, but I was honest. I was hurt and tired of how she used me. A few months ago she said she was glad "I broke the habit of writing cruel e-mails". Wow. I was loving and honest and did not wrap myself or feeling in cotton. All she was able to see was cruel. So, it sucks I can;t be myself around her, it sucks I need to run every feeling and thought through a soft filter before it gets to her.

Daniel Penn: Whatever the cause doesn't justify the abuse of another human. Life is hard deal with it take ownership and responsibility work on yourselves BDP's stop making exuses you should hate yourselves.

Berta Esquer: I would love talk to you

Match Box: You’re wrong!
stop sugar coating it!
When you see BPD people RUN!

Kelly Zzz: So needed to hear this 😢😓❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👌🏼🙂

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