Brené Brown on Blame

You are probably a bit of a blamer - most of us are. But why should we give it up? In this witty sequel to our most watched RSA Short, inspirational thinker Brené Brown considers why we blame others, how it sabotages our relationships, and why we desperately need to move beyond this toxic behaviour. Voice: Dr Brené Brown Animation: Katy Davis AKA Gobblynne http://www.gobblynne.com Production and Editing: Al Francis-Sears and Abi Stephenson Watch the original talk here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXSjc-pbXk4 Follow the RSA on Twitter: https://twitter.com/RSAEvents Like the RSA on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/thersaorg

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jhaduvala: The is pure narcissism. The pretence that anyone who blames another is in the wrong. This is gaslighting by a narcissist. It's completely wrong. Perhaps you mean Venting rather than blame. The judicial system is BASED on "blame" (i.e. determining accountability of the accused).

Keia Love-Black: I love that Steve hung up on her 🤣

Liz Liz: I have a husband like that. What should i do. He will even blame me that im too rough when the window handle in our bathroom broke. Our bathroom window faces west btw n its been installed for about 10yrs n is brittle. I blame it on wear n tear

Reggie Madison: My boy Steve isn’t playing water polo till 10:30 with the boys 😅😅😂😂

ElricGurl: I'm an, "oh god did I do that", person. Being the baby of my family, I often got the blame shifted onto to me. So now as an adult, I automatically take on any blame and think to myself like urkel, "oh go did i do that."

Capt. Dade Pool: @2:06 I kick like Bruce Lee and Jean Claude Van Damme
So dunna nana nana nana nana nana, Batman! ---- wait that doesn't work.

kvi: It's the opposite for me though I blamed myself for all the wrongdoings in my life. And I'm now rewiring my brain from all those past events.

Ryan W: brene brown's voice coming out of a cartoon character is somehow so so damn funny

elsa Grace: My Grandmother and my mother, the ultimate blamers. I will not have a relationship with them because this is what I get. It is also what everyone around them gets so while I don’t have to take it personally it is still so unpleasant to watch and experience that I don’t want It at all. Plus they never grow up by practicing blame. They are stagnant which is also unbearable to me.

Ted Telet: What was the APP made this video? Please tell me!!!

Esmé Ralda: To me, it is obvious that blaming and off-loading onto the others is not this answer. But in this video, the real issue that should be adressed is : why does the woman need and request her husband to be back at a certain time (10.00 pm) from water-polo, otherwise she can not sleep? To me, it is a controling behavior and treating him like a child, as well as being childish herself ("I can not sleep if "mummy" or my teddy bear is not around". The real issue she should address is her childhood fear still not resolved.

Evoke Spirit: "my feelings were hurt" could perhaps be victim consciousness. feelings most likely don't get hurt, they are biological chemical reactions that happen based on our worldview, beliefs, phobias and active memories.

. I'm sensing she felt angry and sad. how can there accountability when we are not acknowledging our ability to respond by owning our own emotional wake, including having the perception that feelings are hurt. that's still blame and it is subtle and not perhaps overt.

"the conversation (with our self and others) is the relationship. the conversation is not about the relationship, and relationships are built (and end) one conversation at a time" - susan scott

appletree: Brene is very wise and she also makes an adorable animated character.

mowgli2071: I just blame God. Works for everything

kterbo: Blame never bothers me as much as denial from others. They should go hand in hand. Denial is just as dangerous.

Alexa I Am: So GOOD!!!

poulayot Studios: C´est tellement vrai.

Mario: I want to check out those "studies" and what they "say". Because I am pretty sure it has nothing to do with this self-help nonsense.

Jolene Rader: Sadly I know someone like this & with such she has isolated all her friends & children because they simply can't be around her & her blame game.

communicationTRUSTpower: I'm sorry, but I have a problem with any video creator who casually uses a slogan like "21st Century Enlightenment". Unless you're referring to the European Enlightenment, and even then it's not great. Otherwise it's sloppy terminology.

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