Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever

Negative Thoughts - Learn about the nature of negative thoughts, where they originate from, and techniques for how to eliminate them forever. The Ultimate Life Purpose Course - Create Your Dream Career: http://www.actualized.org/life-purpose-course Leo's Top 140 Self Help Books http://www.actualized.org/books Full Video Transcript Here: http://www.actualized.org/articles/negative-thoughts Video Summary: Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. Let's talk about negative thoughts. In this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are, set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use to cope with them, deal with them, and eliminate them. Automatic Negative Thoughts So, starting with negative thoughts or, as many of us call them, "automatic thoughts" -- because that's what they are -- what we don't realize is how many of these thoughts we're actually having and how unconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically we're having them throughout our days. Whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, a negative thought about what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, or a negative thought about having to go to the gym, or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you next month when you can't pay the bills, your mind is really good at taking your greatest fears and projecting them and catastrophizing them. It just creates the worst possible case scenarios and then puts them right before your eyes and flashes them right before you. So, no matter what your greatest fears are in life, the chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts around that fear. Your Greatest Fear I do tend to find that it's one or two main fears. This is probably something like an issue that crept up and kind of stuck with you from childhood or early adulthood. These things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure. Maybe you have a fear of winding up poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of not winding up in a good relationship and being lonely and dying miserable and unloved. Maybe you have a fear of really getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there, whether it's in a relationship or a business context. Maybe you have a fear of failure in going and trying some sort of goal and then not succeeding at it and having everybody point fingers at you and say, "Well, we told you so. We told you that you couldn't do that." So, you have a fear of failure of that kind of embarrassment or humiliation. There are many different types of core or fundamental fears, but whatever yours is, it's going to be like a filter that you look and filter your whole day through. This will tend to happen again and again and again. So, one first step to starting to eliminate negative thoughts is to become very conscious. Become very aware of when you are having negative thoughts and what is the topic that it's revolving around. I guarantee to you that you'll be shocked if you have not done this exercise. Increase Your Awareness Spend the next three days just being very aware of what it is that you're thinking. What you might want to do, practically, is just randomly stop for five minutes three times a day and ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now and what am I thinking?" What you'll notice is that if you're feeling negatively or if you're feeling anxious or stressed or worried or overwhelmed, there's an associated thought with that and that thought is going to be some sort of negative automatic thought that you might not have even realized that you were having. It might be something like, "Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and the reason I'm feeling that way is because I'm thinking that I have a hundred things that I need to do before the end of the week and if I don't do that, then something bad will happen." That's usually where your subconscious mind will fill in that blank with your worst imaginable fear. You might think, "Well, if I don't get all this stuff done this week, then I might get fired and I might not be able to pay my mortgage and then the bank will repossess my house and then I'll wind up on the street and I'll never be able to recover from that and I'll be homeless and poor for the rest of my life." So, maybe that's what your brain is projecting into your mind. Or maybe it's something like, "Well, if I don't get all of this stuff done, then my spouse or my boyfriend or my girlfriend will think less of me and they won't love me anymore. Maybe they'll leave me and I'll not ever be able to replace them and get into a good relationship. So, I'll wind up alone and miserable and nobody will ever want me because I'm unlovable and not successful in their eyes." So, maybe it's something like that.

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itssara Jin: I hope this helps me, even as someone who's not even facing extremely big responsibilities I feel very anxious and worried of failure, and Why could happen and all the things that could happen to people I care about.

Edith Ivhay Rosenblat: Leo what if someone plants the negative thought in your mind. How do you protect your mind and be strong and not let their negative thinking get to you

Anthony Miller: this is great bro

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GlobalCity Zen: My brain knows that I'm not going to be deterred easily so it takes the worst of the worst situations to debilitate me. It elicits so much fear it's crippling. It takes the last resort of pain to stop me and it usually gets me to second guess things. I'm hoping there's a follow up to this video so I can overcome them because meditation doesn't work for me

FloppyKidz !: I keep thinking about hating God and Jesus and loving Satan which I don't. Satan can go fuck himself. I have accepted Jesus into my life, and I'm afraid that I won't go to heaven because of these thoughts that I don't mean. Help!

Gary Conway: My narcissism stems from the fact that I have so many negative thoughts about myself. Which causes passive aggressive behavior ( acting like little bitch) and strains any relationship I'm in professionally or otherwise. Anyone dealing with this?

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DoubleOseven Davon: I have negative thoughts in my head it all started at thirteen years old when I started have senseless moments that is when I lost all of my confidence and that is how my anxiety kept building up. I would try to work on it, but it is so hard because I would keep having flashbacks on the negative things that happened to me in the past. Then when the negative thought comes up I automatically say it out loud. It just never goes away for me and I'm to figure out how. It's a long journey, but I'm trying to get through it.

siana v: hi leo, can you please make an episode about how to deal with gossip? how to deal with pepole making fun of you behind your beack...
and i dont talk about "fake feinds" senerio.. its more like pepole that you know that have the need to gossip, and how to deal with it when the topic of their conversation is "you" in a bad way.

thenk you :)

lovergurl Amy: my fair is going to hell... and doing the wrong things that God doesn't like

galaxy rose: Didn't help

Sarah Ahmed: leo i love you so much ur lectures had great positive impact on my life. But plz plz plz i request stop putting these thumbnail picture in that way they seem so disturbing n psychotic it really disturbs my mind imaginations. thats the only reason i have stopped searching ur topics on youtube

game gossip: I tinik that I might hurt someone that I don't want to and it becomes an urge but if held it back

Ferchii Alice: sometime when im alone i feel like i can never do anything. whenever i try to do something i just have this feeling that i can never do this right and that alone stop me from concentrate and i cant do anything atm and even when i do i feel anxious all i do will be for nothing the score will be bad :( and when im with people i feel those people doesnt actually want me around they just fake it , thats why i keep my distance to anyone. i keep thinking my future is futile. and whatever i do today will never be any good and im a quiter and no one can help me. seriously... but on the outside people can never tell cause im always smiling, my words are all positive and i look like someone who can acchive anything, im not what i am on the outside...

Broose Wain: Please help I I have a great life and awesome family but everyday no matter how hard I try I can't stop thinking about the negatives no matter how low the chances of them happening are! For example recently I have been wondering if we still have emotions when we die and it will just be black nothingness forever. I pretty sure that's not true but I still can't help thinking about it!!

Dane T: kinda glad I found these

Riyas Muhammed: Leo Sir,Can i please ask what about using cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) instead of Affirmation?

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