Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever

Negative Thoughts - Learn about the nature of negative thoughts, where they originate from, and techniques for how to eliminate them forever. The Ultimate Life Purpose Course - Create Your Dream Career: http://www.actualized.org/life-purpose-course Leo's Top 140 Self Help Books http://www.actualized.org/books Full Video Transcript Here: http://www.actualized.org/articles/negative-thoughts Video Summary: Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. Let's talk about negative thoughts. In this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are, set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use to cope with them, deal with them, and eliminate them. Automatic Negative Thoughts So, starting with negative thoughts or, as many of us call them, "automatic thoughts" -- because that's what they are -- what we don't realize is how many of these thoughts we're actually having and how unconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically we're having them throughout our days. Whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, a negative thought about what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, or a negative thought about having to go to the gym, or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you next month when you can't pay the bills, your mind is really good at taking your greatest fears and projecting them and catastrophizing them. It just creates the worst possible case scenarios and then puts them right before your eyes and flashes them right before you. So, no matter what your greatest fears are in life, the chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts around that fear. Your Greatest Fear I do tend to find that it's one or two main fears. This is probably something like an issue that crept up and kind of stuck with you from childhood or early adulthood. These things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure. Maybe you have a fear of winding up poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of not winding up in a good relationship and being lonely and dying miserable and unloved. Maybe you have a fear of really getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there, whether it's in a relationship or a business context. Maybe you have a fear of failure in going and trying some sort of goal and then not succeeding at it and having everybody point fingers at you and say, "Well, we told you so. We told you that you couldn't do that." So, you have a fear of failure of that kind of embarrassment or humiliation. There are many different types of core or fundamental fears, but whatever yours is, it's going to be like a filter that you look and filter your whole day through. This will tend to happen again and again and again. So, one first step to starting to eliminate negative thoughts is to become very conscious. Become very aware of when you are having negative thoughts and what is the topic that it's revolving around. I guarantee to you that you'll be shocked if you have not done this exercise. Increase Your Awareness Spend the next three days just being very aware of what it is that you're thinking. What you might want to do, practically, is just randomly stop for five minutes three times a day and ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now and what am I thinking?" What you'll notice is that if you're feeling negatively or if you're feeling anxious or stressed or worried or overwhelmed, there's an associated thought with that and that thought is going to be some sort of negative automatic thought that you might not have even realized that you were having. It might be something like, "Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and the reason I'm feeling that way is because I'm thinking that I have a hundred things that I need to do before the end of the week and if I don't do that, then something bad will happen." That's usually where your subconscious mind will fill in that blank with your worst imaginable fear. You might think, "Well, if I don't get all this stuff done this week, then I might get fired and I might not be able to pay my mortgage and then the bank will repossess my house and then I'll wind up on the street and I'll never be able to recover from that and I'll be homeless and poor for the rest of my life." So, maybe that's what your brain is projecting into your mind. Or maybe it's something like, "Well, if I don't get all of this stuff done, then my spouse or my boyfriend or my girlfriend will think less of me and they won't love me anymore. Maybe they'll leave me and I'll not ever be able to replace them and get into a good relationship. So, I'll wind up alone and miserable and nobody will ever want me because I'm unlovable and not successful in their eyes." So, maybe it's something like that.

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THE URANIUM CAFE: I wish there was some way to block channels. I hate seeing this guy's brainless videos pop up all the time.

Prick Mendoza: Thank you for this video. This can be really useful to me since I frequently been thinking some negative thoughts lately.

erinc: Thank you ...

Chris Van de Klift: Leo,
There were many negative thoughts a day, in my head. There still are. But at least now I know, they're just that, thoughts. It's amazing though how powerful they are, they can really get me frustrated and dark.
Luckily, I can also feel the positive sensations of my life, and the negative things are also sensations, I find lately. Just appearances, sensations that occur.
Thanks for the little steps guiding me through thoughts.
Fear is still a big part of my life though.
Leo, my question is this:
'Can a person get over this fear, ultimately?'

dwayne carter: I wanna kill somebody one day. I didnt really mean that.

dwayne carter: U seem phony..... u dont seem like you can speak on the subject.

Matthew Mulugeta: HIGH SCHOOL

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Tikilove: Dude I finally got out of this shithole of emotions,and know Iam starting to belive that I want myself to suffer,but I dont know why,anyway Iam trying to fight.

ModernDayRebelX: The fear of failure is something I have been struggling with recently. I'm an Electrical Engineering student at UIUC and I have done pretty good academically with a 3.98 GPA. However, I failed miserably this semester when a professor gave me a research project that went way over my head and stressed me out for weeks until I dropped the research because I didn't think I could handle it. I also had no interest in the research itself and just wanted something to look nice on my resume besides GPA. I kept putting it off and the fear grew inside my mind. I didn't want to sacrifice the understanding of my coursework or grades for research. I felt so terrible and lost a lot of self respect when I gave up.

 My girlfriend had dumped me the semester before and I began having these thoughts build up in my mind "You're a failure. She knew you were a failure and that's why she left you. She knew you were weak and couldn't amount to much. You're not as smart as her and you will never succeed." My mental state got so bad I couldn't pay attention in lecture and my grades slipped dramatically. Now that I've screwed up my academics, social life, research, and mental health, my confidence has reached a new low. Most of the undergrads here end up doing research and seem to have the time management skills to balance school work with research. Knowing that over 50% do makes me feel even worse about myself for giving up.

 I don't believe in myself anymore. I stopped talking to my friends, I stopped exercising, I stopped pushing myself academically, and now I routinely compare myself to others that society would deem more successful. When ever I see a cool research opportunity, scholarship, or internship I hear a voice in my head say "You're not smart enough. You don't deserve this. Don't even try." This semester I've been having weekly panic attacks whenever the deadline for assignments come because I'm no longer on top of my studies or understanding. And my life so far has been pretty much just rigorous academics, so now I feel like I have failed at life. I was super close to my friends and ex-girlfriend too but after slipping into a depression I stopped trying to talk to people. Now my social skills and upbeat attitude has been drained as well.

I don't feel passionate about engineering and I don't think I'm smart enough anymore. Literally just after one bad semester. I think I spend too much time in my head. Nothing interests me anymore, not even my studies that I use to love.

Can anyone give me some tough love? I've let this get to me for ~4 months now and I need to shake it off. My counselor and psychiatrist have been helpful but I don't get to see them as often as I would like.

Solitaryhavoc: Mine is what if I never got the chance to eat McDonald’s.

Henry Choi: I think i am negatively thinking and living every single day because my school life makes me pessimist. People ask me to give up an empty dreams. Even my professor stubbornly told me to give up it. How can i be positive?

DB 01: I'm like this when I was eating I swallowed something hard but that was a day about it hurt my throat when I swallowed it but it didn't do anything else and then I though what if it cuts my intestines but if I was I would be in PAIN but I'm not I just have pain from worrying

Mr. Smile: You look like a sick cancer patient !

TokenBlackYGOGuy: I find myself making outrageous things up in my head and letting that make me angry and upset towards others close to me.

Smokepurqq: I have a though that like I don’t wanna die. They will be nothing. I just want to live forever.like when I’m never here what will I do. I don’t. Wanna be nothing. I don’t want to sit in darkness my whole life

Simran Ahuja: https://youtu.be/Aj0SXmAAQh8 watch this to get rid of negative thinking

Ana Hata: Why are you always dressed in black? Is that some kind of protection?

kadance w: I seen the video and I have an issue with negative thoughts I think I am going to be a schizophrenic like my mom and I'm going to loose my self image and loose my family and just not be me a hard working women who's always took care of her family. I've also took test on schizophrenia which it does not seem I have to but the fear of getting it scares me. It's also hard for me to be around my mom.

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