Negative Thoughts - Learn about the nature of negative thoughts, where they originate from, and techniques for how to eliminate them forever. The Ultimate Life Purpose Course - Create Your Dream Career: http://www.actualized.org/life-purpose-course Leo's Top 140 Self Help Books http://www.actualized.org/books Full Video Transcript Here: http://www.actualized.org/articles/negative-thoughts Video Summary: Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. Let's talk about negative thoughts. In this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are, set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use to cope with them, deal with them, and eliminate them. Automatic Negative Thoughts So, starting with negative thoughts or, as many of us call them, "automatic thoughts" -- because that's what they are -- what we don't realize is how many of these thoughts we're actually having and how unconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically we're having them throughout our days. Whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, a negative thought about what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, or a negative thought about having to go to the gym, or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you next month when you can't pay the bills, your mind is really good at taking your greatest fears and projecting them and catastrophizing them. It just creates the worst possible case scenarios and then puts them right before your eyes and flashes them right before you. So, no matter what your greatest fears are in life, the chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts around that fear. Your Greatest Fear I do tend to find that it's one or two main fears. This is probably something like an issue that crept up and kind of stuck with you from childhood or early adulthood. These things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure. Maybe you have a fear of winding up poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of not winding up in a good relationship and being lonely and dying miserable and unloved. Maybe you have a fear of really getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there, whether it's in a relationship or a business context. Maybe you have a fear of failure in going and trying some sort of goal and then not succeeding at it and having everybody point fingers at you and say, "Well, we told you so. We told you that you couldn't do that." So, you have a fear of failure of that kind of embarrassment or humiliation. There are many different types of core or fundamental fears, but whatever yours is, it's going to be like a filter that you look and filter your whole day through. This will tend to happen again and again and again. So, one first step to starting to eliminate negative thoughts is to become very conscious. Become very aware of when you are having negative thoughts and what is the topic that it's revolving around. I guarantee to you that you'll be shocked if you have not done this exercise. Increase Your Awareness Spend the next three days just being very aware of what it is that you're thinking. What you might want to do, practically, is just randomly stop for five minutes three times a day and ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now and what am I thinking?" What you'll notice is that if you're feeling negatively or if you're feeling anxious or stressed or worried or overwhelmed, there's an associated thought with that and that thought is going to be some sort of negative automatic thought that you might not have even realized that you were having. It might be something like, "Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and the reason I'm feeling that way is because I'm thinking that I have a hundred things that I need to do before the end of the week and if I don't do that, then something bad will happen." That's usually where your subconscious mind will fill in that blank with your worst imaginable fear. You might think, "Well, if I don't get all this stuff done this week, then I might get fired and I might not be able to pay my mortgage and then the bank will repossess my house and then I'll wind up on the street and I'll never be able to recover from that and I'll be homeless and poor for the rest of my life." So, maybe that's what your brain is projecting into your mind. Or maybe it's something like, "Well, if I don't get all of this stuff done, then my spouse or my boyfriend or my girlfriend will think less of me and they won't love me anymore. Maybe they'll leave me and I'll not ever be able to replace them and get into a good relationship. So, I'll wind up alone and miserable and nobody will ever want me because I'm unlovable and not successful in their eyes." So, maybe it's something like that.
gamezonic: I'm trying to become a more positive person because I realized that that was the problem all along. The problem is that I don't know any other way of living. I don't know what it's like to not be this way. Thank you for this video it really helped
Nadia Salsabila: please do one for someone who lacks interpersonal skills
Nadia Salsabila: please do one for teens who are confused/or don't know what majors should they get for collage
ishaykwowsers: mean people
r0bzii: i have a fear of death,,, what if i get a stroke or something :( or car accident
KaysMakeup: Just subbed to your channel... so glad I found it. Thank you so much for being such a great help
Fostera 101: Thank you for making this! Made me feel better. But on the other hand. For years, including now. I let my thoughts run over me. And it drove me crazy!
I would take out loud, or even yell. While cussing. Sometimes at my family. While at school, I would be real quiet whether people would either ignore me. Or talk down to me whether I was uncomfortable or not.
I wouldn't blame myself for having these thoughts now as you should know. But on the other hand, I am kinda of a drama queen as my mom puts it.
But I had to deal with myself, being teased and seeing fights around. And being critized, or yelled at. Even close to having relationships apart.
But only those were close to happening. Or they didn't happen. Because they were only on my head. Thank goodness! But still most of things, I explained happened.
But all I know from what I've been told. Is to pray about it and move on. And keep rebruking the thoughts. Until they would go away. And keep being happy, and do your own thing. Because of years later, we'll all be old, because of our petty rivalry and anxiety over listening to these evil,spirited thoughts!
Xander Tonjaroff: Great video
Tay D: @actualized.org i watch your videos whenever i get down. They really help me find by way back from the negative side of my mind. Thank you
Manny Singh: Does negative thinking cause depression, or does depression cause negative thinking.
Muhammad Ahmad: my age 20 i am from pakistan i am male...i am suffered in stomach gas problem due to this problem i always thinking negative how can i get rid of this problem....any suggest
Calvin: I need advice like im always thinking negative things like something bad is going to happen to my mom and newborn sister which causes me to cry and tear up
Liza Colton: Bless ur soul :)
elijah flippin: These Thoughts Stem From The Unhealthy and Unnatural Foods We Put In Our Body, Truthfully
Himanshu Giri: i have problems about my gf as i live away from her so i became too much insure about everything which she do how to overcome all the fear that she leave me or another guy can harm her physically or mentally if she look too kuch gorgeous....
Rex Mundi: you have all the answers. Good for you.
jeremiah cliff: ty vm verey helpful :)
Leslie Diaz: I thought this was a quick and pretty simple methods of getting out of yourself and your negative thoughts. Well done Leo!!
Commentator91: My mind is really really good at realizing my solitude, when he mentions things like girlfriends, driving to work, gyms and so on.
Funktown: Love the video Leo great knowledge, ive made my own video 6 tips for negative thoughts, please check it out and give me critic and comment so i can improve!! much love =) !!
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