Negative Thoughts - The Origin Of Negative Thinking & How To Eliminate It Forever

Negative Thoughts - Learn about the nature of negative thoughts, where they originate from, and techniques for how to eliminate them forever. The Ultimate Life Purpose Course - Create Your Dream Career: http://www.actualized.org/life-purpose-course Leo's Top 140 Self Help Books http://www.actualized.org/books Full Video Transcript Here: http://www.actualized.org/articles/negative-thoughts Video Summary: Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. Let's talk about negative thoughts. In this quick self-help segment, I am going to cover negative thoughts, what they are, set your expectations for how they work, and give you some techniques that you can use to cope with them, deal with them, and eliminate them. Automatic Negative Thoughts So, starting with negative thoughts or, as many of us call them, "automatic thoughts" -- because that's what they are -- what we don't realize is how many of these thoughts we're actually having and how unconsciously, spontaneously, and automatically we're having them throughout our days. Whether it's a negative thought about your girlfriend or boyfriend, a negative thought about what somebody did to you while you were driving to work, or a negative thought about having to go to the gym, or a negative thought about what's going to be happening to you next month when you can't pay the bills, your mind is really good at taking your greatest fears and projecting them and catastrophizing them. It just creates the worst possible case scenarios and then puts them right before your eyes and flashes them right before you. So, no matter what your greatest fears are in life, the chances are that you're having a lot of negative thoughts around that fear. Your Greatest Fear I do tend to find that it's one or two main fears. This is probably something like an issue that crept up and kind of stuck with you from childhood or early adulthood. These things tend to be centered around, for example, the fear of failure. Maybe you have a fear of winding up poor and homeless. Maybe you have a fear of not winding up in a good relationship and being lonely and dying miserable and unloved. Maybe you have a fear of really getting rejected by somebody if you put yourself out there, whether it's in a relationship or a business context. Maybe you have a fear of failure in going and trying some sort of goal and then not succeeding at it and having everybody point fingers at you and say, "Well, we told you so. We told you that you couldn't do that." So, you have a fear of failure of that kind of embarrassment or humiliation. There are many different types of core or fundamental fears, but whatever yours is, it's going to be like a filter that you look and filter your whole day through. This will tend to happen again and again and again. So, one first step to starting to eliminate negative thoughts is to become very conscious. Become very aware of when you are having negative thoughts and what is the topic that it's revolving around. I guarantee to you that you'll be shocked if you have not done this exercise. Increase Your Awareness Spend the next three days just being very aware of what it is that you're thinking. What you might want to do, practically, is just randomly stop for five minutes three times a day and ask yourself, "What am I feeling right now and what am I thinking?" What you'll notice is that if you're feeling negatively or if you're feeling anxious or stressed or worried or overwhelmed, there's an associated thought with that and that thought is going to be some sort of negative automatic thought that you might not have even realized that you were having. It might be something like, "Well, I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and the reason I'm feeling that way is because I'm thinking that I have a hundred things that I need to do before the end of the week and if I don't do that, then something bad will happen." That's usually where your subconscious mind will fill in that blank with your worst imaginable fear. You might think, "Well, if I don't get all this stuff done this week, then I might get fired and I might not be able to pay my mortgage and then the bank will repossess my house and then I'll wind up on the street and I'll never be able to recover from that and I'll be homeless and poor for the rest of my life." So, maybe that's what your brain is projecting into your mind. Or maybe it's something like, "Well, if I don't get all of this stuff done, then my spouse or my boyfriend or my girlfriend will think less of me and they won't love me anymore. Maybe they'll leave me and I'll not ever be able to replace them and get into a good relationship. So, I'll wind up alone and miserable and nobody will ever want me because I'm unlovable and not successful in their eyes." So, maybe it's something like that.

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Quietly 1N3R: I feel like I abandoned all my friends or what some what I believe are my real friends I’ve done things in my past fairly negative but regardless we make up and chat it up . And when I had the chance to right my wrongs I pushed them away because I was afraid of having my voice being heard because I have a fear of being called dumb I see other open about shit like that but I just build jealousy amongst that part . I’m a senior in high school all these events are going on and I’m not involving my self . I feel like I use fight or flight way to much which hurts me every day . Which stresses me every day which has been messing with my sleep 😴 💤💤💤 . I can’t even have simple conversations anymore. I’ve come to a realization that I have vary little friends and I’m somewhat feeling sucidal because everybody seems to have a better life than me and I just here alone . With having my mother time to time tell me that doing nothing with my life . Everyone around me can sense my energy but no ones willing to tell me the truth . I couple of kid called me weird . I also believe I have bipolar disorder . So my moods change a lot like if I’m depressed I would leave the house for weeks builds on to my anxiety also I have 2 week left of senior year and I feel like been living a lie the whole time as if no one cared about me . And also I been feeling gay I’m not sure ifs that normal I’m attractive to females but just feel overwhelmingly emotional about dumb topic sometimes while there’s others with more serious problems which makes me shameful at times .

Secret Identity: What if someone ENJOYS negative thinking 😷

Third Eye Awake: Yes yes yes! Having confidence to control thoughts is so important!

Krixis: COULD SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT IS THE THING THAT I JUST AUTOMATICALLY WANT TO DO, I ALWAYS WANT TO BURP BUT NOT LIKE LOUD, BUT INSIDE ME??! 😔😔😔

Mishutka Bolot: Hi Leo, your videos are amazing! They inspired me and helping me a lot. I am lucky I understand English but I would love to share them with my relatives and friends who would benefit so much from your great blogs. Any plans of having them translated or is there any option of watching them in other languages at least subtitled?

BitBird Beauty: The worst place to be for me is in my head.

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Senaid Sakonjic: I am a afraid of new. Big changes and experinces in my life that iam going through :(

Lubna Saifi: Your vedios are quite insightful.... thxx for the self help

Coral: I know that most of you think that it’s hopeless, but just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
You could either
A) stay where you are and give up
B) look for the light at the end of the tunnel

You should choose B, because there is always a light at the end.. you just need to find it

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sᴀssʏ ᴍᴏᴏɴ ᴛᴜʀᴋᴇʏ: Yes, murder those negative THOTS

Sally McGregor: Help, I got 2 septoplasty surgeries on my nose 10 years ago, and my septum cartilage is thinner and I am always scared of bumping my nose or running into something and my nose permanently getting pushed in and I'll look like a freak, I can't stop worrying and stressing about it, it constantly scares me everyday, how can I get passed this.

Paxton Morgan: The one thing I do that I need help with is getting in my head! I feel like I have so many thoughts in my head all the time that it makes me do poorly in other activity’s that I’m normally really good at.

MCcreed: Thank you! I'll try it out.

ALeXisLOveSMuSIcA: Love youuuu

Alicesia Pilus: wow, now thats a discovery! i was really really stuck with my own toxic thoughts and even though my problems have already over, sometimes they will resurfaced and comes back biting me in ways i dunno how to get out. i know its just me and my own dramatic mind, but sometimes its just so depressing and hateful to let these taking over me. im so happy to learn few things from your video, i know the negative thoughts still floating around at the back of my mind, but learning that it was bc my very own "survival" that got threaten due to the previous bad experience made me chuckled a little and realized that what ive been doing was to "defend" my own self.

so i just wanna thank you for the video and your advise. i know it wont go away that easily, but at least, i learnt something and maybe i can find a way to turnover my thoughts to something more reasonable. :)

Prachi Singh: I have been watching videos whole night, on getting rid of negative thoughts. Nothing seem to have helped and convincing.
The way you explained everything really helped. I already feel much better.
Thank you ♥️

Jean-Claude Morgan: Says he will help with negative thoughts, proceeds to make you enter into an existential crisis with negative thoughts you didn't even know you had

Joey Roman: I thought we came from apes and fish now I’m a lizard now I really feel negative. Cold blooded and I speak with a lisp thanks.

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