What is Dependent Personality Disorder? Mental Health Help with Kati Morton

What is Dependent Personality Disorder? First I want to make sure you all understand that this is a personality disorder that we are very careful about diagnosing. There are many times in our lives when we may meet this criteria. It could be because we young and therefore unable to care for ourselves, or we may have a disability which makes it difficult for us to care for ourselves. All of these situations and circumstances need to be considered before making this diagnosis. That being said, many of us may struggle with Dependent Personality Disorder, so I will go over what it is and how it is diagnosed. Dependent personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people struggle with the fear that they cannot care for themselves. They honestly believe that if they had to, they couldn't. So they look to other people in their life to take care of them, tell them what to do, when to start a project, etc. DSM-5 (1) has difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others. They struggle to make any decision because they honestly fear that they won't make the right one. So they look to others for support with it. (2) needs others to assume responsibility for most major areas of his or her life. They feel like they cannot care for themselves, so they give the responsibility over to someone else that they think could do a better job. (3) has difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear of loss of support or approval. Support or approval is so important to us, that we don't want to fight in case that scares them away. (4) has difficulty initiating projects or doing things on his or her own (because of a lack of self-confidence in judgment or abilities rather than a lack of motivation or energy). This can be hard in school or work because they are unable to do anything on their own or take the lead on a project. (5) goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others, to the point of volunteering to do things that are unpleasant. (6) feels uncomfortable or helpless when alone because of exaggerated fears of being unable to care for himself or herself. (7) urgently seeks another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends. Like I have stated above, they worry so much about being able to care for themselves, that if one caretaker is gone, they will frantically find someone to fill that spot so that they can continue their life. (8) is unrealistically preoccupied with fears of being left to take care of himself or herself. This is a core belief that anyone with DPD has, and this is why they try so hard to keep a caretaker in their life and give them the responsibility of making their life decisions. If you are struggling with this, know that you are not alone! Also, please reach out for help, because the sooner we start talking about and working on our struggles, the sooner we can start to feel better. MY FREE WORKBOOKS: Self-Harm workbook http://goo.gl/N7LtwU Eating Disorder workbook http://goo.gl/DjOmkC My video schedule: MONDAY - New video release http://goo.gl/OUEsgM TUESDAY - Tumblr Tuesday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/79fMfa WEDNESDAY - Website & YouTube Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/CIp9b9 THURSDAY - Twitter Thursday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kL7ZjX FRIDAY - Facebook Friday Vlog #KatiFAQ - https://goo.gl/kjYLeR My PO Box: 1223 Wilshire Blvd. #665 Santa Monica, CA 90403 Find me: My Website: https://www.katimorton.com Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/katimorton Tumblr: https://www.katimorton.tumblr.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1 Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1 Help us caption & translate this video! http://amara.org/v/Fxu9/ -~-~~-~~~-~~-~- Please watch: "Mitchell Davis talks Agoraphobia, OCD & Panic Attacks | On The Couch Ep. 3 with Kati Morton" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ra8gUzMUuXY -~-~~-~~~-~~-~-

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Kevin Kordes: You have explained the symptoms, but what are the possible underlying causes of this disorder?
Could it be: 1. Authoritarian parents 2. Military service brainwashing 3. Cult brainwashing/mindcontrol...??

Marianna Bilobram: My girlfriend has just been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and she constantly quotes the diagnosis but she doesn't like the terminalgy and she doesn't disclose to her therapist.what I'm most confused about is the blending of so many symptoms that seem to apply to her.perhaps her diagnosis was correct?

Good Bits6: I was diagnosed with this after struggling with my dad’s unexpected death. After dealing with it for years and after people getting upset with me for simple things like not even knowing what I wanted to eat, I decided to just be alone for almost 2 years and get comfortable in my own skin. I’m at a pretty good place right now. I love being alone and making decisions for myself. I finally feel free

Denya Gantenbein: Interesting

Rachel Wallace Doak: I more or less fit the last three criteria on this. I was also born with hydrocephalus.

About twenty years ago, I was engaged to a guy, and when he broke it off, I was so depressed that I actually considered walking into oncoming traffic. Then a few months later, I met the man who is now my husband. I also am so used to being the one having surgery that I actually hate it whenever someone other than me has surgery, and it makes me anxious when my husband gets sick; the way I explain it to others is, people are supposed to take care of me, not have me take care of them.

The fear of being alone and urgently seeking another relationship I guess applies to my ex breaking off the engagement. And being afraid of being alone to take care of myself, I feel like if I ever get to that point, I might as well check myself into a nursing home (assuming I'm the right age by then).

Celine Jarrett: It seems as though a lot of people know how to get into relationships. But clearly can’t cope with the reality of them. Relationships are as real as they come. You can be in love one minute and heartbreak the next.
Why choose to be with someone if you know you have a issue with dependency. Should you not seek help first?

Openly, my ex partner believes she is mentally a 5yr old whom wears nappies and calls herself an Adult Baby Diaper Lover. She will actively find men or women to call Daddy or Mommy to provide care and sexual pleasure for her. She wears nappies and has made herself incontinent. Now this is the extreme of how Dependant personality disorder can affect a person.

But what about the effect it has on the people they are with? You can seem so normal but after a year you can fall for such a person to realise they have no way of acting like a independent adult. And that is truely the biggest slap in the face if you are considering marriage or a future with this person.
The person whom accommodates the DPD is the individual left with a lot of trauma also. But this isn’t their illness it’s someone else’s who has had the capacity to worm there way into your life for you to end up picking up the pieces.

If you have this disorder seek help before jumping into commitment.

Kayla: I was diagnosed with this disorder..it answered a lot of my behaviors. I hate feeling like I depend on someone just to do basic things

M V: enters panic mode like 5 times a day

Heidi Latham: How many of those criteria do you have to have? I have BPD but I'm unsure if I have dependent disorder.

mrsaah7: I'm so fucking dependent, I'm like a damn joysucker, a black hole of pain and darkness. Why the fuck am I even here?

j chung: i thought i was going to be a few...i was all of them.

Kymberlie Belfield: a lot throughout my life I am finding someone new to talk to or telling someone I will be there to listen because I feel that's important. At the same time though I feel I am only there because I need someone, because I don't really have anyone. I am fine when I am out and about and with my friends once or twice a week but sometimes when I am stuck at home I wish I have my younger niece to come help me, because I don't want to get back up, or I just feel like I want someone there to help me clean when I am so exhausted or I just want someone to want to talk to me and sit with me. I don't want them to feel they have to do all this. I want someone to do it because they want to. I've been pretty quiet the past month or so about a lot of personal problems because I just been feeling like people around me are not as close as they use to be

Goldark 3: I was always told I would need to depend on people my whole life. I told my self I would not do that as a kid. good part I can do a lot on my own bad I am not very good with people. so for anyone reading this, the middle path might be the best choice.

BAMBAM Coolio: They think I might have this. I am physically disabled so I'm not sure. It's kind of hard to remember who I was before my injury.

Nandita Sarkara: Wow..I match up to all of the criteria's mentioned . Damn!! Can anybody tell me what sort of help did u take and what has generally happened in any session?

High af on Memes: My friend confessed that he has this last night. Im not sure how to deal with it, he has so many problems. I care about him deeply but he wants to get back toghter with his ex who i heard was really sweet. Ive told him to go for it. But im afraid i couldve said the wrong things, i was never good at expressing my thoughts and it just makes me so sad that hes feeling depressed without his ex

Milna Alen: My girlfriend has all these trairs and her therapist thinks she this too... I dont know if it would be appropriate to diagnose since she has DID though, it seems like most system's "cores" are like that. I am like the other side of the coin, I do need caretaking in basic things (executive dysfunction) but I have no issue starting projects, deciding things or disagreeing. I have always been like a caretaker and therapist to my parents and friends.

Baylene Alvarez: If anything I have moderate DPD. Besides that, I have Depression and Anxiety. I'm also a low-key Hypochondriac.

Nikolai Sæthre: I asked my "one person" if she knew what DPD was and if she thinks I have it right before this video lol

Chloe Lastname: Can you talk about unspecified bipolar disorder?

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