Being a parent and bringing up kids the right way, giving them the best you can, being strict just enough and yet winning their love is not an easy task. We all know that words can hurt deeper than a knife, which is why knowing how to communicate with your kids and what not to do is key. Pay attention to these phrases you should never say to your kids or teens to help them and protect them. If your teen is upset about something, whether it’s a crush that won’t notice them or a fight with their best friend, you shouldn’t just tell them that they’re okay. This type of response from you will only make things worse. A study conducted by the University of Notre Dame found that when parents criticize themselves out loud with their children nearby, it can actually have a detrimental effect on their kids’ self-esteem. If you want your child to grow up to be self-sufficient, don’t be too hands-on. You can, however, guide them through a problem and help them find the right solution themselves. This way, your child will grow up knowing that everything is in their own hands, instead of naïvely waiting for somebody else to come and make all their problems disappear. Music: Audionautix - Straighty Baby https://www.youtube.com/audiolibrary/music TIMESTAMPS #10. “You're okay.” 0:50 #9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50 #8. “Hurry up!” 2:47 #7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50 #6. “Let me do it.” 4:50 #5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52 #4. “Good job!” 7:10 #3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04 #2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02 #1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55 SUMMARY -Instead of telling your kids it’s okay, be their shoulder to cry on, listen to them, and acknowledge their feelings. This way, they won’t be afraid to come to you if something bad happens. -Our parents are our role models as we’re growing up, and their behavior sets an example for us. So, for example, when a mother calls herself fat all the time, her daughter subconsciously learns to view her body and appearance the same way. -Rushing just puts unnecessary pressure on your kid. Whatever you do, just try to keep a positive and playful vibe in the morning, your kid will surely appreciate it. -If your teen is sad or crying, sit them down and try to help them work through their feelings, that is, if they’re comfortable opening up. -If you tend to jump in too soon, you may undermine your child's independence. They’ll develop a habit of always looking to others for answers, and nobody wants that for their kids. -Inflated praise somehow puts even more pressure on children with low self-esteem as opposed to encouraging them. They start to worry about meeting the high standards you set again, so they're afraid to take on a challenge. -Asking questions about the details and the work it took to get the result keeps the focus on your kid and makes them explain their choices, both of which help their self-confidence a lot. -It's better to use phrases, like “Your brother/sister looks up to you!” or “You're such a role model for your little brother/sister!” -Children should never be forced to do anything that makes them uncomfortable, especially when it comes to physical contact. -Children may start to feel responsible for expressed parental pride, like they need to keep it up because that’s the only way that Mom or Dad will feel good or love them. Subscribe to Bright Side : https://goo.gl/rQTJZz ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Our Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brightside/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brightgram/ 5-Minute Crafts Youtube: https://www.goo.gl/8JVmuC ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For more videos and articles visit: http://www.brightside.me/
BRIGHT SIDE: TIMESTAMPS
#10. “You're okay.” 0:50
#9. “I'm so fat!” 1:50
#8. “Hurry up!” 2:47
#7. “Don't be sad.” 3:50
#6. “Let me do it.” 4:50
#5. “You're so incredible!” 5:52
#4. “Good job!” 7:10
#3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04
#2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02
#1. “I'm so proud of you!” 9:55
Bu G: Good for you!!!! Thats not good to say because they think you dont care
Riley Boyle: "according to this" "according to that" lol
Rachel L.: My mom does all of this no wonder I'm so messed up and going through depression, plus my mom is barley home and my dad only drinks 😒
LiamF27: One thing that triggers me every time is when at the dinner table & I take my first serving of food, my mum goes "Is it nice?" Or "Do you like it?", Thatll probably trigger teenagers if it happens every single time they try to enjoy what they're eating
Unicorn Squad: I am still a kid and not a teen...pls tell me facts about i guys!
Robbie Edward Sayers: I was gonna be a scientist but now I’m gonna work in the estepona underground rivers that come out on the beach it has a 2m euro wage a week. You can google estepona Spain on google earth and youl see what I mean on the beach
Brayden Thompson: I’m 9 should I be worried about being a teen?
Jam Squaud: when my mom/dad says good for you to me it sounds like they don't care, but that is probably because I am bothering them when they are doing something
A1ien by default: My problem with good job is that it feels like a very basic term. I personally would rather the person be informed of what made the thing so good. But if you are a parent great job probably will mean something more than just good job.
Healthy Healing: I disagree about..
"Good for you."
It sounds not only rude..but comes accross as a jealousy statement in my opinion.
It sounds like a brush off..as if the parent or person isn't really listening or paying attention to the conversation..and brushing it off with..
"Good For You."
MYMind :D: I think that a parents should never tell to the teens its "go and say bye to everyone" because like it is saying "go to EVERY single person, shake they hand/give them a kiss on the cheek/give them a hug and say goodbye"
Star Art: For the first one, what if your dad was in the Vietnam war as a teen? My dad was.
Kitt Crowley: This comes across to me as saying "Don't praise your kids, they'll feel pressured, and pressure is bad." When here in the land of reality, you have to be able to cope under pressure in order to achieve important goals. Besides that, tiptoeing around your kids emotions would likely lead to them feeling like everyone is going to tiptoe around them. I don't have to explain the negative side of that, do I?
Tami Henderson: Hi
miss cat: Like this comment if your a preteen!
Goat ski: a teen watching this
Belle Calantican: =c, ho im done
galaxy kitty: When I was younger I was always compared to my older sister who was a fantastic painter. After a while my dad said I was completely useless because I cant paint :/ 5 years later I was outside on my swing set singing. My dad was impressed and stopped comparing me
Kermina Arts: ATTENTION PARENTS!!
NEVER EVER TELL YOUR CHILDREN THEIR INCREDIBLE OR THEY HAVE DONE A GOOD JOB!!
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